About Suzann Robins

As an expert relationship coach I offer you an opportunity to grow through understanding personality dynamics and the effect they have on relationships both at home and at work. My background in meditation, tai chi, yoga and as a social science professor I wrote a book that synthesizes Eastern Philosophy with Western Psychology. I would love to work with you via Skype, on the phone or you are invited to visit my retreat center on the Oregon Coast.

How Oral Health and Heart Disease May Be Related

You likely know that regular brushing, flossing, and dental check-ups are good for maintaining oral health—but did you know they may also help keep your heart healthy?

It’s true;rearchers are beginning to find links between poor oral health and an increased risk of heart disease. And yet the vast majority of Americans see a dentist irregularly at best; for instance, some estimate that only 1 in 9 seniors have visited a dentist within the last year. In fact, more than 80 percent of Americans may currently live with periodontal (or gum) disease.

Yet some studies show this could come at an increased risk of cardiovascular disease.

Gum disease and heart disease—linked?

A recent study actually showed that if someone has gum disease, be that disease advanced or even mild, they are at a tremendously increased risk of developing heart disease. But why?

Scientists say that it has to do with inflammation caused by bacteria. That same inflammation that can cause painful gums can also put you at an increased risk of developing atherosclerosis, or plaque build-up in your arteries.

In particular, inflammation can be present in your gums as part of gum disease in a few different ways. For instance, swollen gums are a pretty common dental issue, and can reflect two main conditions. The first, gingivitis, is simply an inflammation of the gum itself. The second, though, periodontis, can be far more serious, as it’s the result of an infection. As a result, periodontis often includes infected pus pockets—which are a problem, because they allow bacteria and toxins into the bloodstream.

But how does mouth bacteria end up in your blood?

It just so happens that your gums are full of blood vessels, so if the gums are disrupted—such as by pus pockets, for instance—that disruption allows bacteria into the bloodstream. That bacteria, then, has free rein to the rest of the body, where it can trigger inflammation elsewhere. And that inflammation can then cause major damage to blood vessels, including those found in your heart.

And scientists have noted that for those of us with healthy gums, we’re far less likely to have bacteria in our hearts. As it so happens, keeping our gums healthy may just be another way to help keep our heart healthy.

Additionally, researchers note that higher bacterial prevalence has also been correlated with more plaque in major arteries, like the carotid artery. Enough plaque build-up can cause a total blockage, and a blockage of a major artery like the carotid is a recipe for a disaster, such as a stroke. As a result, experts say that lowering our bacterial counts can be a major step toward stroke and heart attack prevention.


Of course, that doesn’t mean we should just load up on antibiotics. After all, taking antibiotics when we don’t need them makes it more likely that they won’t work in the future, when we might really need them. Instead, we should focus on taking care of our oral health by practicing good dental hygiene, and the rest will likely come in time.


Lastly, some researchers note that part of the correlation between gum disease and heart disease may also be related to lifestyle factors. Quite simply, individuals with lifestyles who put them at greater risk for gum disease are also at higher risk for heart disease. For instance, smoking is a huge risk factor for both, as is poor diet or lack of exercise.

Additionally, many people who suffer from periodontal disease are diabetics, which is also a major cardiovascular health risk factor.

Still, in addition to making the lifestyle changes that make us less likely to suffer from cardiovascular disease, addressing our oral health and dental practices is also a good idea.

Even if the American Heart Association says there is no proven link that preventing gum disease can prevent heart disease, it’s still something you should want for yourself. Good health, quite simply, is good health, so you should want to take good care of your mouth just as you would take good care of your heart.

After all, plenty of research shows the two are related, even if we don’t completely understand how. After all, do you really want gum disease? Good dental hygiene is a great place to start—and it just might help your heart, too!

Women’s way of knowing?

The internal union of masculine and feminine traits essential

As the second oldest of five girls raised in the 50s, I learned from my family and my catholic education what it meant to be a woman: get married, have babies, keep your husband happy with a well-kept home and lots of good cooking. The variety of roles women play has changed dramatically in my life time. Although we have more options than ever before in written history, how women are perceived by others is only one measure of this change. More important is how each of us view women as a group different from any group of men. And how do we as individuals see our self? How much effect does our internal thinking have on the way we see ourselves and others?

The first woman was nominated by one of America’s two major political parties to be president of the United States. Hilary Clinton won the popular vote by an estimated 2 million, yet she lost in the final count of the electoral college. Maybe not so much has changed? Clinton is my age, but her life took a different path. She mothered only one child rather than three, went to college after high school and earned a law degree. I began my formal education in my mid-30s and mastered Psychology when I was 50. Hilary has spoken out for women’s rights, and stood up for equal rights for people of color, lesbians and gay men during her career as a politician, often against strong opposition. As Secretary of State she was involved with controversial foreign affairs. And is it is often said that she has shady dealings with Wall Street. Her public and private life are under constant scrutiny. Because of the internet, both Bill and Hillary Clinton became international celebrities. I have no such claims to fame, other than a few academic articles and a published book on healthy relationships. And, I realize I still have not found my voice.

Through an ancient myth, titled Psyche and Eros, I learned something about life’s lessons. This story, written thousands of years ago when women did not have a public voice, illustrates the internal struggle between mental and emotional responses. This seemingly simple story proves that men have always endeavored to understand the roles women play in the development of civilization. This election process and the myth highlight realizations about conscience (ie: knowing right from wrong) and consciousness (becoming aware of how individuals think about what is right for them, yet wrong for someone else). In both the story and the election “collective unconscious” is illustrated by archetypes of what it means to be a man or woman. Neither are “right” or “wrong” any more than being black is more right than being white, or being rich is more wrong than being poor. Today men and women acknowledge this internal struggle as part of our daily lives, no matter where we fall on the spectrum of possibilities. Many people tap into universal distrust, or even hatred, for people who are different: whether they hold different beliefs, have a different color skin, or are part of a different economic class.

Most everyone would agree we have gender-based stereotypes in spite of the hard work of women’s liberation and recent findings in brain research, which prove that some women are just as capable of analytical, linear, rational thinking as some men. Many people argue that these left-brain mental abilities are more essential than their right-brain opposites, such as creativity and more holistic ways of viewing the world. Concepts of emotional desire and nurturing love are often thought of as “getting in the way” of being successful. However, some men are just as capable of nurturing and affection as any woman. Once we understand how the internal Psyche and Eros must work together, we see how inseparable they are and have been since early Greek and Roman times.

More to follow

inner rainbows

kundaliniWe each have an inner sense of knowing and ways to attract the things we need in life. Each color of the rainbow has a particular attribute outlined in ancient traditions connected to the chakra system:

Red=Security — What makes you secure?

Orange=Creativity — What do you create to express your self?

Yellow=Power –Do you express power with rather than “power over”

Green=Love — In what ways do you give and receive love?

Blue=Clarity of Communication — Are you clearly asking for your needs to be met?

Indigo=Vision and Imagination — Are your dreams fulfilled?

Violet=Connection — Are you practicing forgiveness?

Listen to a 12 min. meditation designed to sooth your mind and body using these colors and manifest more of what you need in your life at this time.

Differing Brains For Introverts and Extroverts

Differing Brains For Introverts and Extroverts

New articles on introversion and extroversion range from glorified personality quizzes (31 Unmistakable Signs That You’re An Introvert”) to history lessons (16 Outrageously Successful Introverts). Most are packaged with the assumption the reader understands the basic concept of introversion, and already has a pretty clear idea of whether he or she is an introvert or an extrovert.

Scroll through the comments sections and you will find quite a few readers—even introverted ones—don’t appreciate being put in a labeled box. For every grateful response from a self-professed introvert, you’ll find several responses along the lines of, “No one is always extroverted and no one is always introverted,” and, “I consider myself an extrovert but a lot of these introvert traits apply to me.”

What does neuroscience have to say about all this? Do the brains of introverted people really look and behave differently from those of extroverts? And if so, what might those differences mean? Thanks to brain imaging techniques, we are able to prove there actually IS a difference.

Introvert v. Extrovert

When Carl Jung coined the terms “extrovert” and “introvert” in the early twentieth century, he emphasized that introverts aren’t necessarily shy or insecure—nor are extroverts necessarily empathic or loving. The distinction between the two, Jung wrote, “lies mainly in the fact that introverts get exhausted by social interaction, while extroverts get anxious when left alone. Introverts need solitude in order to recharge, while extroverts draw energy from socializing.” This to me explains why many couples get into trouble! How much do you know about the way you and your friends, partners (or potentials) gain energy? Find out more  in Exploring Intimacy: Cultivating Healthy Relationships through Insight and Intuition.




Relationships are eternal. The ‘separation’ is another chapter in the relationship. Often, letting go of the old form of the relationship becomes a lesson in pure love much deeper than any would have learned had the couple stayed together.

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The Spiritually Transformative Experience

The Spiritually Transformative Experience

On the soul’s spiritual path the Spiritually Transformative Experience is just one step in the course of a life time of awakenings. When working with you we first listen deeply to what is happening and honor your past or present experiences through the practice of presence. Second, I guide the client’s understanding of any personal issues that are a result of a particular experience or set of experiences. We then work together to define messages and meaning and work toward understanding and integration. Each session is unique to what is going on in the present circumstances. Sessions are based on your needs and religious or spiritual orientation and may include prayer, reflection, meditation, guided visualization, expressive arts or ritual to connect or reconnect within a spiritual guidance framework. In your session with me we may use various altered-states of consciousness including dream work, energetic awakenings, intuitive experiences, kundalini, nature-based spiritual experiences, near-death experiences and visions. I work with clients one-on-one or with family members present, as well as in small groups of peers.
Spiritually Transformative Experience http://aciste.org/

Learning to Listen

Learning to Listen

As my semester of teaching Psychology 101 progresses, I am reminded of new piece of brain science about how Introverts and Extroverts are hard wired found in The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World (2002) by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. (pp. 74-5)

Recent studies have shown that Introverts tend to exhibit a longer “pathway” between hearing or seeing something and being able to respond. They need more time to think, and often prefer to write rather than talk. Extroverts are talkers, quick to respond, often not taking time to reflect on what is being presented before blurting out their opinion on the subject. This behavior can cause Introverts to feel unheard. Another consequence is that too often ill-considered decisions are made.

This process can be detrimental to healthy relationships because in every dyad, one will tend more toward Extroversion and one more Introvertion. The resulting miscommunication can leave both parties frustrated. Relationships would benefit from change on both sides. It would be great if more Introverted people practiced expressing their ideas and insights, rather than allowing themselves to become suppressed and defer. The more Extraverted person needs to practice slowing down their rapid response and make more space for listening. Introverts can become more expansive, more persistent. Extraverts can become less exuberant.

America is run by and for extroverts who boldly speak their mind without taking long term consequences into consideration. It is compelling to compare this state of affairs to when men ruled the world, leaving women, half of the population, without a voice – without a vote. But even when women were first “given” the right to vote in this country, the fact of their being heard only changed on a small scale. Much bigger change came later, with birth control. Prior to women experiencing the sexual freedom that came with the “pill” they were often depressed because of being ignored and shamed. They experienced anxiety because of not being heard. Today, men and women have equal opportunity for depression and anxiety. Is this discomfort related to the Introversion and Extraversion spectrum?

Susan Cain, author of Quiet:The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking (2012), notes that “television pundits—that is, people who earn their livings by holding forth confidently on the basis of limited information—make worse predictions about political and economic trends than they would by random chance.” (p. 52) [emphasis added]. She adds that American society has always valued those who can respond quickly.

Paul is an example of a man who experiences invisibility in this extroverted society. He has come to recognize that as an Introvert, he needs more courage to be persistently more visible. Several negative experiences occurred throughout his life. An early memory is a teacher who asked what is so important for you to interrupt the class, when he excitedly wanted to share. As an Introvert, he was hardwired to share from his inner landscape, and he felt shamed. And something else was learned, “It’s not okay for me to speak my mind.” He recently created Introvert Awareness, a website intended to help talkers slow down to provide more time for listening and for the listeners, who are often Introverts to share their thoughts more frequently.

Extroverts need to value what Introverts have to say, and Introverts need to value themselves enough to speak out. Paul finds that when attending a meeting, “Because I ruminate and thoughts come in waves, I often realize later what I might have said. Because of the way my brain is wired, I need more time.” Reflection leads to clarity rather than rapid decision making. We all need to recognize that we cannot solve problems or make changes in a one hour meeting. Perhaps we need to reconvene, add two or three more meetings to give all parties involved time to think more clearly. What if we learned the consensus process as opposed to Robert’s Rules of ‘Rigidness’ where the majority (read “those who think more quickly”) get to make the rules.

Similar to the paradigm shift allowed by birth control, a whole new paradigm in decision making could be the equivalent of changing the world. Any decision made without adequate time for reflection and consideration of the consequences is too quick. Perhaps we all need to stop and think about how our decisions effect the next seven generations. This alone could bring more balance to the world.

It is important to keep in mind that Asian societies value introverts–value reflection, and those who think more deeply and slowly. How can we, Americans, become more MINDFUL? Therefore creating less anxiety, depression and stress. How can we help introverts become more courageous? How can each of us live a life that is more heart-felt?

Seven Keys to Healthy Relationships

This is an example of one of the Keys you will receive weekly if you sign up.

Key Five : Communication is essential to achieve intimacy. Becoming more transparent is one way to allow others to really know who we are and what we desire from life. However, the closer people get and the more time they spend together, the more likely arguments will occur. Use the love languages introduced in the previous Key about LOVE. Clear communications, without shame or blame, without attack or defense, are essential ingredients for healthy relationships at home or at work.

Actions: Make an effort to pre-determine talking rules before there are any conflicts.

Determine how each person prefers to communicate depending on given circumstances.

Both parties in any disagreements need to fight fair in the appropriate time and place.

For instance: If one person is a “yeller” the other person needs to accept that will probably not change, and that it is healthy to “follow the charge” all the way through.

If one needs space to think in the midst of an argument, the other person must give them that space or nothing will ever be settled.

Use statements that begin with “I” rather then “You.”

For example: “I don’t like when you _____.” is better than “You always _______.”

Another model is: “When you (state the action), I feel (state your emotion).”

Once ground rules are agreed upon, keep the lines of communication open.

Example: Chris is learning that tangible gifts are Sandy’s way of showing symbolic love. The giving of a gift is one way to receive love and acceptance. At first, Chris was ambivalent about some of the gifts. They did not seem appropriate to satisfy particular wishes and desires and Chris let Sandy know about the dissatisfaction. Over time, Chris realized that GIFTS are one of Sandy’s love languages, and came to understand the deeper meaning behind them. As this was communicated between them, Chris became more loving when receiving the gifts, and Sandy can feel more acceptance and appreciation when giving them. The more they were able to talk about this, the more appropriate the gifts became.

Reflection: Open and honest communication can make or break relationships. In what ways do you misunderstand when people give you their gifts? If someone refuses to engage in conflict what other solutions can they offer? What do you think will happen if differences are ignored and not dealt with when they first occur?

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Solitude and Intimacy; We all have an inner intovert

Solitude and Intimacy; We all have an inner intovert

Solitude is very different from a ‘time-out’ from our busy lives. Solitude is the very ground from which community grows. Whenever we pray alone, study, read, write, or simply spend quiet time away from the places where we interact with each other directly, we are potentially opened for a deeper intimacy with each other.
Henri Nouwen

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A review of ‘Exploring Intimacy’

New Review From Booklist

Robins’ well-researched text skillfully weaves historic perspectives with overviews of mind-body-spirit system theories and exercises designed to help us reconnect with others and our environment. Consciousness study began when Freud suggested that early childhood memories caused body distress. The rise of postwar individualist thinking led to military and industrial establishments that sought to control the destiny of individuals and the world by emphasizing materialism to the detriment of emotional and social health. Robins reviews subsequent reactions against such reductiveness and leading to “a call to conscious awareness,” and the recognition that discerning inner truths allows access to healing energy and enables individuals to regain and maintain balance and follow the “Path of Love.” Filled with illustrations of body shakras, the flow of positive and negative forces, and the overlapping circles of nature and nurture, this comprehensive study smoothly blends Eastern and Western approaches to healing energy. Robins’ detailed, richly interpretative, and practical study will find an audience among those who are seriously involved with alternative therapies. –Whitney Scott