Human beings are born helpless. We immediately rely on others. Our need for interaction never ends. This blog is intended to help relationships. I will offer tips for understanding how past conditioning can influence the present. Future experience is determined by knowing and changing the past. We cannot change what actually happened, but we can alter and refocus  the way we think about it.

Newborns rely on the developing senses of sight, sound, smell and taste. These senses allow us to be in touch with this new world. We need to be touched and held. Babies thrive when they are gently stroked and cuddled. We also develop our sixth sense of intuition, which allows us to detect the quality of touch. We learn trust and distrust depending on how quickly our needs are met. We unconsciously absorb information about how the caretakers feel about filling those needs. The judgments we make as newborns can cause future difficulty in relationships because something that was said or done when we were tiny children can trigger a feeling in present time that was related to the past.

As we mature, we sense the energy others emit. Emotional intelligence develops and we discern the difference between one facial expression and another. This initial sense of awareness is automatic.  At a young age, we make judgments that we carry in our thoughts throughout our lifetime. Happiness and sadness, anger and joy, register in our brain as different qualities of caring and connection. These emotions register as physical feelings. Even tiny babies express emotion by imitating the people who surround us.

Who and what surrounds us determines who we become.